Resolution: after finding this page, we turned off conversation grouping (no idea how it got turned on in the first place) and all was well.
The steps:
- open Windows Live Mail
- go to the View tab
- click on Conversations and choose Off.
Had I not figured this out, I would have switched her over to the eM Client mail application, which looks like it has a nice feature set, including calendar, and can import data from various Microsoft mail systems. It's free for basic non-commercial use.